This was originally posted as a note in my facebook account. But I would still like to share it here with this photo of a wildflower – they bloom in the midst of huge grasses surrounding them and I believe they bring a message of hope. Challenges may seem to overwhelm us but if we carry on and never give up we become better people. And that is beauty.
“We’re not yet done.”
I would say it was one of the most moving lines Sophie said (in the movie Letters to Juliet) when she was trying to console Claire after finding another fake Lorenzo. How strange it is to chase someone whom you knew fifty years ago and still hope that you’ll end up finding that one person who has occupied a very special seat in your heart! Charlie had a point. What if the person has been happily married or dead? There are so many possibilities. And Claire was risking herself to get heartbroken if things aren’t what she was hoping they would be. That time they have found so many Lorenzo’s yet none of them was the right one.
I believe all of us will go through similar predicament at least once in our lifetime. Perhaps not about searching our “true love” but those are the moments when we face certain situations that would test our courage and faith. Those are the times when what we truly desire or long for seem so elusive and you’ll reach a point wherein you need to figure out whether or not it is still sensible to carry on. And unfortunately there is no easy way to go.
This reminds me of the ring of one of my patients. This is going to be a very simple story but I think it’s worth telling. Her fingers were starting to get swollen and the doctor pointed out that it should be removed before things get worse. It was a busy shift but I thought I could spend a few minutes to do it. So I put liquid soap on her finger and started pulling the ring out. After five minutes, nothing happened. The ring was stuck and it was indeed a mission to take it out. Another ten minutes and there was no progress. I could see it in her eyes that she was hurting but she simply gave me this just-do-what-you-have-to-do look.
“Tell me when you feel that I should stop,” I said.
Ten minutes later and the ring was still on her finger. “Do you want me to stop?” I asked her. I think I should have asked that question to myself. Do I want to stop? It was so tempting to say I’ve done my best and I couldn’t do it. I was starting to get frustrated.
“I feel like it’s moving a little bit,” she said.
That instant there was this little voice inside me saying “nothing will happen if you give up.” I told her it’s going to be difficult but I’ll try one more time.
And I got the ring out of her finger.
There were a few lessons I learned from that experience. First, sometimes things can be a little more difficult than what we thought. Second, it is disappointing and frustrating being unable to get what we want. Third, we gain nothing good when we give up. Fourth, it is worthy to keep on trying if you believe that what you are doing is right. Lastly, when we stop believing that things can happen that’s the time when we embrace failure.
While you are reading this, you may have looked into your past and thought about the things you really wanted to achieve yet has never turned into reality. Or maybe you’re working on something but it seems that there’s just no way you could get the results you really wanted. Life may have tossed you with the waves of trials and things just seem to be against you. Remember this:
We may be disappointed. But it is a decision to be discouraged.
To lose hope is such a great mistake that we should avoid doing in our lives. When the going gets tough, it is alright to pause for a moment and recharge ourselves. But we should continue the journey. Never forget this:
We may lose a battle. But that doesn’t mean that we lost the war.
I’ve been challenged many times and I wouldn’t forget how terrible it feels each time I realize I’m not winning. However, that feeling-terrible situation brought me to my senses that I couldn’t simply rely on my own strength. I needed God to strengthen me and lead me to the path where He wants me to go. One awesome truth that I always remind myself is that God never fails and He never gives up on us. He has great plan for us. And it is an exciting journey to search his will and do the things that ultimately glorify His name.
When you are hurt because you did not get what you desire…when you start saying to yourself that things aren’t working…when you feel like the best thing to do is to quit… Hang on! Recognize that you have just walked into the rough part of a journey. But you are not meant to be alone. God can be there for you…because He is not yet done with you. And He loves you.
Yes, He is not yet done with you. You just have to believe.
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